Does anyone have experience with caregivers (non family) that live on the same property as a parent with Alzheimer's?
We rented a mobile home on my dad's property to a couple (no kids). The wife became one of my dad's caregivers and now is his only one. We have a rental agreement with them that was signed prior to her starting caregiving. It is becoming apparent that with dad's declining mental state and her PTSD that she will not be able to care for him when he gets farther down the road of this disease. Right now he is mobile (shuffles), he eats by himself and toilets too.
I was speaking to a gal who told me that even though she lived in a separate residence she is considered a "live in" caregiver. I am thinking of giving her notice to move and perhaps her notice as caregiver too. Perhaps not immediately but probably sooner than later.
Can she cause me trouble if she is declared "live in"? I've heard of caregivers (live in) not moving out after they were released from their jobs.
Kinda concerned.
Thanks. (I know, I probably need to talk to an attorney).
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You need to ask an attorney if she is considered live- in or not. I think she’d have to be under the same roof as him.
Plus, like you said, someone with PTSD caring for a person with severe dementia is just very concerning. That type of care is extremely stressful and requires a very stable and mentally healthy caregiver. I'd be concerned for both of them.
She's been a caring caregiver but I have had to put up with her PTSD issues (mostly with strangers coming to visit. she doesn't know them; dad doesn't remember them).
She is involving herself too much in our family business and is causing "drama" between everyone. I'm just tired of her and all her problems that we get to hear about too.
And, maybe, the extra family members do annoy your dad. It's understandable, but, I'd keep in mind that except for the early stages of dementia, a person with that condition really can't be left alone in a house. Even with people living next door, it's quite risky. You can explore the safety aspect of it. But, I'd also explore how likely it will be that these family members will be bathing, changing, feeding, staying up at night, etc. with a person with dementia and how stressful it would be for your dad living with a loud family, as he struggles with this condition.
Is your dad still competent enough to say what he wants?