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Does anyone have any experience with professional guardians? I have another post in this section re: the guardianship proceedings we're doing with my dad who is angry and uncooperative. It's going to put me in a bad place because he will not do what I say. The woman that owns the care management company says she used to be a professional guardian and is pushing the professional guardian idea for me because of my dad's stubborness. She said she has a client whose daughter is the guardian of her father who is like my dad and is having all kinds of problems with him.

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Thank you! My attorney and I are supposed to talk again today. I'm feeling a lot of pressure from the care people to farm this out to a professional (who they will help me find but I'm thinking that might be some sort of conflict of interest). Yes, court date is in a week and I don't want to have to 'get in line' again. It took 2 months to get this far. My dad is totally against any guardian but if I am awarded guardianship and it's not going well, we will petition for a new one with the hope of me keeping conservatorship. They don't usually split those in my state but it's worth asking. As far as the recordkeeping, that is the least of my worries (computer geek - spreadsheet queen here!). It's the emotional part of dealing with my dad's outbursts and trying to please everyone else (however, my family is supportive). They make me feel like I'm doomed to fail.
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I started the guardianship process myself in 2017; however the Attorney Ad Lidem assigned to my Mom decided that I should be Mom's Durable POA so I did not have to complete the process.

I suggest that you "go ahead and accept guardianship and appoint someone else later".

Our bank offers services for guardians in which they help the guardians fill out the annual reports and any other financial reports needed. You might ask your bank's Main Office (I don't know if the smaller branch banks would offer this service.) Don't cancel your court date for next week because you will just be wasting your time & money if you have to start all over again.
{Yes, being a guardian is lots of work--but who would you rather have making decisions for your Dad--YOU or someone who does not know your Dad at all???}

ADDED: Look at the Professional Guardian Association websites as they might have people who can help you complete some of the required forms or reports or have suggestions as how you can better utilize your time as a guardian and completing the required forms and reports. Good Luck!
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My attorney is pushing me to become guardian. But he says that if I decide to back out of this, I could go ahead and accept guardianship and appoint someone else later, or we can cancel our court date next week (took over 3 months to get this far) and start the whole process over. I am under a great deal of stress from outsiders (people in the caregiving industry) to give this to someone else as they don't feel I'm strong enough (possibly no backbone?) to make the changes my dad needs. But yes, I can be a b*tch when I need to be. I think this would be easier for someone else to do this who can be more objective but then I know my dad better than anyone else right now. Dad has already told me he will not do what I or anyone else wants. It wouldn't matter who was appointed. A professional guardian would march him right out of his house and into a home very fast (he would walk out) which is not what he wants. But then I could always take on this responsibility and tell him that I can appoint someone else if he doesn't listen to me but he wouldn't like that. I'm at a loss............... Either way, lots of work to be done.
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I read your posting:
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/i-am-working-on-the-guardianship-process-for-my-elderly-father-any-words-of-encouragement-are-welcome-440652.htm

So I am guessing that you and your attorney decided that it was best that you NOT become your Dad's guardian because he will not allow you to do so? Why does the owner of the care management company think that your Dad will accept a Professional Guardian if your Dad is SO AGAINST having YOU as a guardian??? Is it possible that your Dad will fight with whomever is granted guardianship of him?

Who would be the "professional guardian"--the woman that owns the care management company? If she becomes your Dad's professional guardian, then you cannot use her agency/company to take care of your Dad as that will be a "conflict of interest".

While I can understand why your care management company owner would “recommend” a professional guardian, I would be wary of hiring the first person that she suggest without you doing a thorough background check yourself or hire another company to do the background check. DO NOT rely on your case management company‘s background check of that person. Do your OWN BACKGROUND CHECK of any and all prospective Professional Guardians!

When I did an internet search of “professional guardians association”, the list included several associations from various states: Florida, Colorado, California, Michigan, Minnesota, Washington, Texas. Illinois, Indiana,… You need to contact the “Professional Guardian Association” for the state that your Dad lives in. "Copy and Paste" these URLs to your browser for information about Professional Guardians. The Illinois website mentions that the Illinois Public Guardians (PG) are bound by law to be certified. I would make sure that you hire a Professional Guardian that is certified by the State your Dad lives in.

guardianship.org/about-us/who-we-are/

guardianship.org/what-is-guardianship/

illinoisguardianship.org/about-us/certification-process/ {Guardian certification in Illinois is voluntary except for Illinois Public Guardians (PG) and per agency policy for Office of State Guardians. PG’s are bound by law to be certified.}
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