Please share ONLY positive experiences with long-term care facilities for your mom/dad. It is a hard decision and I read already millions and millions of bad stories, but there should also be good ones....?
In-home care is impossible in our case. It's too expensive and having dementia, mom should be watched 24/7. She was living in my house for 15 years. The last two years were a nightmare before she finally got aspiration pneumonia because of never listening that she should not eat solid food. Now either I should quit my job and completely abandon my kids or she should be in a facility. (90 years old, dementia, dysphagia problems, hypertension). All money that I have will be just for one year living without a job, then what? I will be without insurance being only a year ago a cancer patient.
She is now in rehab and even now I dont have a quiet life, because I am going there every day, checking on her. I have no idea how I can manage all that at home. Her mood is going up and down every day. One day she is alert and nice and another day she is completely out of mind, asking 60 times per minute the same questions... I visited already several NH in my area, some nice, some not. I put her on a waiting list for a good one, but I need some reassurance that nursing homes can be not so bad...Thanks and sorry for a long story. And I am practically an only child. (This is another sad story, as her son does not want to help at all.)