Does anyone feel like the servant for their aging parent?

I understand totally because I have been made the Villain in this too and I too, am a Mother with children. All I can say from learning the hard way is there are "do-ers" then there are the ones who nosy and are good at pointing fingers and blame yet don't do anything to help. I have learned to be thick skinned because it is the only way to not let all the negative blamers get the best of me. I have my Life and I am the type who will help just do not cross boundaries and disrespect me. Caregiving requires patience and time whether paid or not. We could do without the on demand servant expectations over our heads.
If it helps, I use daily "Positive Affirmations" that are on YouTube to get me through all this. Good Luck!

Thank you FreqFlyer! I have much respect for you for dedicating your Life as a Caregiver. Hugs. I grew up mostly with my Grandparents; who had lost everything in WW2 but were survivors and they were not well most of the time yet took care of me and my Brother. I had to learn from early on to help them and without them I would not be here. I empathize with your situation and I respect and appreciate your advice. You are right 100%.
I will keep you and everyone who took the time to reply in my prayers. Everyone here needs to hear uplifting words to carry on. Thank you again.🙂💝

You said it all. It helps to keep positive to stay strong. I get tired being expected to do all the chores and cooking. Making time for what you like and staying healthy will help. That is what my Doctor told me. Thanks for replying Tynagh! Good Luck to you.

Thanks so much JoAnn29 for your thoughtful response. I am a burnt out Mother but still functioning. Most of the contributing factors is from putting up with verbal and mental abuse that no one realizes or admits, out of shame perhaps, that comes with the job of Caregiving. I was raised from early on to be a Mother and learned how to cook by watching the Women in my Family how to cook. I also learned to be Independent but contradicting examples from home and school steered me in the wrong direction early in my formative years.
The wake up call to put me first before being so giving, while Caregiving is when I was rushed to the ER with chest pains, rapid heart beat, and immense stomach pains. I was crying so hard but it was necessary and freeing. Everyone's similar experiences of being dumped on by Family is real. Family is all we have and if they can not make themselves available to all jump in voluntarily to help too and be respectful, I do not see why I it takes me being sent to the ER and still no one cares. Sadly, when I told my Brother and our Elderly Father what happened to me, they did not even ask me how I was. They don't have any children, they just have themselves to take care of. I am a Mother and they do not respect that.
In fact, I was told again via Messenger to "wash blankets and to dry them thoroughly to prevent molds" while they sent me pictures of themselves and our Elderly Father on vacation somewhere.
I wish I could just hop on a plane with my own Family and go as far away as possible to Live life happily with my children. Far away from these selfish, nosy, imposing, no boundaries, all drama "Family members" rather than continue to be humiliated and treated like a servant through life while they are all actually living their lives and being show offs. Microphone drop.