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I tried selling my car and couldn’t. I have my dad's car and I sit in it and it smells like him. Everyone seems to have passed on. Even a Lot of My best friends - very young 50 - 60. No idea why even on Facebook about 10 of them have died. I have seen a lot death the Past 10 years and am always shocked when a good friend passes. I decided to clean out My Dads bedroom - gave away his clothes, Books and other items. Got rid of the bed. Going to Paint his apartment. I have done this Job several times cleaning Out apartments - Its emotionally devastating. My dad has not passed yet - he was kidnapped and taken to California 2 and a half years ago to fund my sister’s Life style since her Mother in Law Passed July 2019. They really wanted the Poor woman’s money and that is all they cared about. She left them $3 Million. They don’t work. They claim to be WASPS and Old Money which is a joke. A - Holes. Anyway I am donating all the medical items to the senior center. Everyone tells me, “Your dad is not coming Home.” We Live in Boston - he Lived here for 37 years and was born in Boston and Lived in Cambridge. I got very Ill this year. I got a Lump in my breast July 2024 and it was very painful. Before that I got Bad arthritis in my Knees. I did a Mammogram and Ultrasound No cancer thank god But My Boob Killed for 2 Months. Then I had to switch out a gas Furnace and almost died from carbon Monoxide Poisoning. Whatever you do if you experience this immediately go to the ER for Oxygen. I did not do that and was dizzy for 2 Months. Very sick. Then I got a Flu and Vomited about 400 times around Christmas. Then a sinus infection. Then another flu for a Month. I Know I have to take better care of Myself. My Doctor said. “Karen you are being held hostage and are in Limbo. You took care of everyone else and No one is taking Care of you. “Very alone. Caretaking is an Isolating experience. Both my Mother and Brother were in Nursing Homes the summer of 2014. I would stay at a Youth Hostel on Cape Cod in summer. I had No idea what was about to transpire. I Found My Mom Over Memorial Day weekend she had aged 1000 years since I last saw her in February and I ended up taking care of her till she Passed January 11, 2017. Then my brother fell and I cared for him till he Passed October 22, 2017 - he Lived with me for 6 months and had stage 4 cancer and schizophrenia. I had a cousin who Lived upstairs He had a stroke and I had to clear out his apartment that took 8 Months. He is basically retarded now bad brain Bleed. Then another tenant disappeared and I had to clear out his apartment. And I inherited another mentally Ill person who had thrown himself In front of a subway - we went to the same Catholic school so I had to clear out his stuff. No One would come get his stuff. He swallowed a bunch of Pills the second time Luckily the Nurse found him. I was the Only One caring for my mother who had bad dementia for 9 Months. Poor soul she was very beautiful .I don’t Know if I really processed that One. I have her hat Box which smells like her and her jewelry ( which I don’t wear ) But I do Like to open her hat box and I have the photographs . My brother Craig passed March 19, 2008 I have His Phone it still works. My other brother Billy I have his boots and jacket and wallets - his Loved Chinese food. Both brothers had schizophrenia and I had cared for them over the years. My dad got dementia and Alzheimer's and was kidnapped for his money. He still thinks he is still in Boston. I used my savings $10,000 for a Lawyer to freeze the stocks and his union Boss froze the 401 K the day he was kidnapped but $120,000 Is Missing. She got his bank account $170,000 and His social security $2500 a Month and the dividend from the 401 K at first $68.000. I have to move forward. I spent another $5000 on court In San Diego. There is no Family left. I have a successful son and 2 grandchildren in Virginia. I am alone.

Maybe time to make a change. I don't think you can do anything about Dad. Are you paying to keep his apt if so stop. Is it possible for you to move near your son? If yes, do it. You need to move forward. Stop doing for others for a while. Make yourself top priority.
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KNance72 Apr 19, 2025
I edited and it duplicated My Post This has happened several times before Alva . There Is No way to delete it and it is mean of you to report . Have you ever edited and then you get a duplicate . I tried to erase one and it wouldn't erase . There Is No way to delete the Post that I Know of . Do you Know how to delete a double Post ? I certainly dont .
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