Husband and I are both on fixed incomes pension and SS. Due to the cost of living going up everything is costing us Soo much more. 2 years ago,she decided to give us 500.00 a month. When my husband was working that worked out really well. Now we are on fixed incomes and absorbing all extra expenses. What do I do? If our cost of living has gone up. Shouldn’t hers?
Why is your mother living with you? Apply for Medicaid for her. You and your H deserve to enjoy your retirements!
You are doing more and more for her, right? Where's it going to end?
Dad gave my sister $2000 AUD as she recently got Covid and lost a lot of work. My brother as POA asked me what the money was for as he oversees Dad’s bank account. I told him what it was for and the attitude was. oh ok it’s his money. Yes it is, told him. He has every right to do what he wants with it. This is the same brother who doesn’t want our father paying us to care for him in our home, or putting him into care or getting a caregiver in when the time comes. Yet he still sees fit to ask him for a loan to buy my narc SIL a house as they are getting a divorce. It’s beyond belief. He has a very high paying job and two rental properties. I get less than $290 per week pension. Why he didn’t just let her keep their house is beyond me, It seems clear to me that he is taking advantage of our Dad as POA and has taken advantage of my sister and me.
I’m ranting again sorry.
She lives in your house. You are her caregivers and provide for her.
A nursing home, assisted living, or memory care would take all of her monthly income along with all of her assets too.
So here's the choice. Either she hands over her monthly income (you determine what she keeps) or she moves out of your home into a care facility which takes everything and then some.
She pays for nothing at YB's home where she has lived for 25 years. Well--she wanted cable and he didn't even want TV in the home, so she has to pay for that, but it's under $100 a month. Nothing else.
I have always thought she should pay at least $500 a month, as brother's family has done so much for her.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/as-a-caregivers-for-my-mom-my-husband-and-i-are-finding-ourselves-doing-more-and-more-things-should--476013.htm
Dads social security is for him, not your brother or his future inheritance.
Go to social security and become dads representative payee so his money is available to pay his fair share.
There is nothing wrong with her paying her fair share.
If she doesn't like it, she can go live some place else.
I find it ridiculous that seniors don't think they should pay for room, board and care because one of their adult children has opened their home to them.