My husband’s mother has dementia and is considered no longer able to make decisions for herself. She has 3 children: my husband, his older sister, and younger sister. Their father is still living, in a nursing home, but of sound mind.
The younger sister has Medical POA for their mother. She has conflict with the older sister, and they have never trusted each other. My husband has been able to maintain mostly good relationships with them both, but because of that, his younger sister is very suspicious of him too sometimes.
Their mother was recently hospitalized, and at first the younger sister and my husband were both on the list to have permission to talk to nurses/doctors. Older sister asked their mother if she would give permission for her to talk to them, and she said yes, so she was added to the list.
Then a doctor called older sister instead of younger sister to talk about their mother. Older sister told the doctor he needed to call younger sister, which he did. Now, younger sister thinks we are conspiring to take away medical POA from her behind her back somehow because of one misplaced call from a doctor.
Now, everyone is off of the list, except for younger sister, and when my husband and older sister call the hospital, they are told they can’t get any info and have to talk to younger sister. But now, younger sister also won’t answer anybody’s texts or calls.
If my husband’s father called the hospital, would they also deny him any information? When it comes to Medical POA in general, does a spouse have rights that are equal to or supercede it if another family member has it?
We’re trying not to involve him if we absolutely don’t have to, because we don’t want to stress him out, but we may need to if younger sister continues to shut us out.
Thanks in advance for your help!