I am POA for Health Care and Financial on my mother. She began having chest pains and was rushed to hospital via ambulance. I took in her Health Care Directive and I am her agent but I was NEVER consulted as to her treatment. Tonight I find out her heart doctor has talked to my sister, not me, and has written in her medical record DNR and signed off on it.
At that moment I did not realize the significance of this until I came home and re-read the document. It seems that I have the power to either allow or withhold treatment. In this case I would definitely want her to receive treatment
however I do not know who made the decision to DNR my mother, her doctor or my sister who is not the Agent in her Directive.
Mom is doing well and received treatment (because no one had seen the Directive,) and will be coming home tomorrow but what should I do to set this record straight and inform the hospital that I am the Agent and I MUST or at least I feel that I am suppose to be contacted on this matter so I can make the decision. Isn't that my job as her agent?
My sister has been spending the nights with Mom and I am there during the day. Her doctor comes to see her early in the morning before I arrive, therefore my sister is the person who spoke to her doctor, however she has failed to share any information about the tests or echo cardiogram nor did she tell us the complete facts on the conversation regarding the Directive or the doctor charting DNR in her medical records.
I know she and my mother are at odds many times and she would like to obtain her inheritance but I would hate to think this has become a power struggle or she would purposely do anything to cause or allow my mother's demise by withholding treatment. Mom has moderate dementia and still lives in her home with our help and I am her caregiver, she is 85 years of age.
How should I approach this from all angles, sister, doctor, hospital?