Mom's primary doctor told her that if she just couldn't live my husband and I that she would help her find a place. Can she?

I'm still confused. This is her primary care doc? That person would have no standing to make sure her meds were correct in rehab. The hospital would have sent a med list to rehab.

Are you mom's medical poa? Perhaps you should have a private chat with the doctor to air these issues.

You say your mother's primary problem is depression, is that right? And she's living with you and your husband, but isn't happy with the arrangements and wants to live somewhere else?

So… is this the depression talking, or have there been real, difficult situations?

If your mother is competent there is no reason why anyone can't offer to help her find somewhere else to live, if that is what she really wants. But unless your mother has come up with an actual idea of where she would move to and how she would manage, isn't the GP more likely to be humouring her?

I think we need more information.

If the doctor believes your mom is not able to live by herself, she's is likely trying to strongly encourage her and you to get her somewhere that she can be taken care of. Maybe, she has a referral.

You say your mom has early dementia. I would read a lot about dementia, because expectations about what your mom should be able to do like get along with people or tough things out, etc. is not really possible. Her abilities will change and she cannot be expected to be able to do many things due to dementia. It's also progressive, so her condition will grow more severe.

Since you're not sure what caused the dementia, you might discuss your concerns with her doctor and/or get a second opinion. I think that is reasonable, since you suspect there was a medication error.

A new doctor may share the existing doctor's concern of you mom living alone.

Do you think the doctor's recommendation is appropriate?

My cousin's doctor told her point blank that she needed to go somewhere to live to get the assistance she needed. My cousin outright refused initially, but the doctor told her that she was not going to let it lie. She would not let it go. I knew what she meant. I then convinced my cousin to enter assisted living.

Yes, her doctor can help her find another place to stay if your mother doesn't want to remain with your wife and you. Does your mother want to change doctors? I wouldn't blame the doctor too much about the medications. If your mother and you didn't call the doctor about it for two months, I would say the doctor is not the only one who didn't make sure the meds were correct. If a doctor overlooks something, they can call the prescription in. All you have to do is call them and let them know.

No, not a nursing home...primary doc said she wouldn't be eligible for a nursing home...she's physically to strong for that...its her mental...she would have to go on Medicaid as she doesn't have the finances to pay for assisted living, I don't think....so where else would she go? Brothers house is not good, wife drinks way too much...so other options?

I'm confused. Is this the doctor from the rehab place mom was in? And now mom is back home with you? Is the doctor suggesting that mom needs to be in a facility?

is she in a nursing home? If not, take charge and change docs. Check with your friends, her friends, etc about good doctors. they are a godsend when you have the right one. i belong to the same group practice that my parents do. when my father fell ill last August, the doctor's assistant was in touch with me constantly checking on me as well as my parents. They were wonderful. Don't forget to check insurance to make sure the new doctor is participating with your mom's plan.