We have been getting home support in 3x a week. They come in the morning on mom's dialysis days to help her with personal care and meals, and back in the evening to help with meals and make sure mom is comfortable. They do quite a lot in a small amount of time, including some housework like dishes or bedmaking, and it's a huge help to me - I can now sleep in a bit on dialysis days (my morning personality is not suited to helping someone shower or clean their bottom!!), and I can plan evening activities knowing someone is there to make sure mom is safe and looked after.
We're in Canada. This is organized through the public health system, but the home support is operated by a private company that holds the contract with the government. How much you pay is based on your income - low income people would get a full subsidy for home support, for example. Mom has enough income that we are not subsidized, but honestly, I feel what we pay is pretty nominal ($40 per day), and consider us lucky to live where we do. For that, we get about an hour and a quarter's worth of home care per day - 45 minutes in the morning and a half hour in the evening. We could get up to 4 hours per day if we were assessed for needing that much. The down side of using "public" home support instead of going to a private company is that there is a rotating group of workers, and who we get when can be a little unpredictable.
I know these women - they are almost all women - don't make much money in comparison to the work they do. Minimum wage in my province is $11.35, and I'd be surprised if they make much more than that. I'd guess $12-15 at most. Lots of them seem to be single moms. We don't always get the same workers, but there are 2 regular ladies that mom and I both really like, and these 2 almost always do the morning the shifts (which are the longest and most physically intimate). The rest are workers we see occasionally, but we're getting to know them too.
So my question is - is it appropriate to tip home support workers during the holidays? And how much do you think would be appropriate? Would you differentiate between the workers who provide regular care and the ones who are there occasionally? Would it be more appropriate to give gifts? (I don't do holiday baking or crafts, so it would end up being store bought gifts.) I would greatly appreciate your thoughts on this!
The agency that provided a PCP for my husband had strict rules forbidding workers from accepting money or gift from clients.
I gave our main caregivers a cute tree decoration and a stocking-filler type present for her little boy respectively - these went down well and cost next to nothing.
And you could leave a festive box of biscuits or a cake or a tin of candies in the kitchen for them to help themselves.
Your caregivers sound like real treasures, and that being so I'm sure what they'll appreciate most is the appreciation.
If the caregivers are your employees the sky is the limit depending on your financial situation.
The caregivers will have a good idea what you can afford having been in your home so whatever you decide will be appropriate. The equivalent of a weeks pay will be much appreciated, otherwise a nice gift of something you know they will like or even something you know a single Mom wants for her kids. Just make sure you are even handed whatever you choose to do.
When I was working for hospice our director opened all mail adressed to the nurses in case a family had sent money as a thank you gift. It is illegal to open other peoples mail so we objected strongly and she stopped. At the same time she would be right there when you collected your mail. One day I got a letter from one of the funeral homes. She stood right there as I opened it. So I looked at her and said"Why don't you read it to me L, I don't have my reading glasses" She grabbed it with great glee but found it to be a thank you note for how helpful I was when someone died at night. No folding green stuff fell out.
The best thing I found, which was popular in my area, were gift cards from Target since there were many Target stores nearby where the caregivers lived.... and Target has such a large variety of retail items.
I like the idea of gift cards. We don't have a Target here though. We do have a Walmart, but we personally don't support Walmart for a number of reasons. I guess (if we are allowed) cash would be more reasonable, because I wouldn't want to dictate where others can shop. Alternatively, I'm thinking about grocery store cards, because everyone needs to eat! My mom was a single mom herself, so we both know how tight things can get around Christmas.
Thanks for the input everyone!
When I had an agency providing caregivers I also gave them a gift.
In both cases it was in the $25.00 range.
The people that came in from JourneyCare , the Hospice we were with were not permitted to receive gifts. If they do get a gift it is supposed to be turned in and that gift is then used for other purposes. (JourneyCare is a Non-Profit Hospice).
What I did do is write a note for each of them and it was sent to their workplace. I expressed how much they meant to me, how much I/we appreciated what they did and best of all I began to volunteer sort of my way of "giving back"
So check with the people that come in, ask if they can accept gifts if they can't they will tell you. And you can tell from the way they answer what is customary.
They are your 'sanity support' and I that needs to be honored.
Happy Holidays!
Honestly, for me? A little "trinket" would have been pointless and useless to me. I appreciated the cards the family gave me, and the many, many thanks better than a tree ornament or some such thing.
DO check with the company--I know mine was "opposed" to tips, but turned a blind eye if you got one.
$11+. We give her $100. at Christmas. I do give her a gift
on her birthday and other smaller things on occasion.
She's a single mother and does appreciate being thought of.
WHAT I'D DO IF IN YOUR SHOES: (1) if tipping not allowed, buy a gift or gift card for their child(ren) somewhere. Target, toy store, book store; (2) if tipping allowed, let your heart lead the way. Honest, caring carers are gems of gold. Commitment, hard work, and compassion are invaluable. Thank them anyway you feel is appropriate; (3) we know that rules are rules and folded green thank yous are often provided regardless. I cannot give the maintenance crew any thank yous at the end of the year where I live (ind senior living). I wanted to give one of the two a bottle of Tequila and he said he could not take it. I said "okay, I'll just leave it here by the door and walk away." I never saw it again. Cheers.
Thank you for posting your question. I am also from Canada and I did not know what to do at Xmas with the nurse that takes care of my husband's problem and the man that showers him. I had not thought about gift cards but that's an excellent idea. I'll give each of them an Amazon gift card so they can use it to buy whatever they may like. I don't like to give cash as it seems so ...diminishing.
Best wishes to you and your mother and may your holyday season be peaceful and serene. That's all I ask and hope also for mine.
When I was a single mother caring for other people's children the best gift was cash. Although gift cards are nice, they limit you to one store (unless you buy a 'Mall' card), the item purchased is often a bit more or less than the gift card value, so I would have to top up, or not get the full value. Boxes of chocolates are immediately regifted, I do not want them.
Cash can be used to pay an utility bill or be tucked away for a rainy day.
Another nice thing was being taken out to lunch or dinner (nothing fancy) by the family. Or having a lunch left for me (I prepared lunch for the children and dinner for the family).
How to allocate the money between workers? I love math, I would add up the hours for each care giver over the next month. The top two would get something over and above, the others, as you may not see them on gift day, I would do a total cash gift and ask the agency to distribute it.
If you disregard that the shifts are different lengths, and just assign $10.00 per shift for the next 4 weeks, you would be dividing $240.00 between the workers based on # shifts worked. Of course you can use any $ amount per shift. You can give the regulars something extra to recognize their additional contributions.
Depending on where you live you could give tickets for the care giver to take her family to a special Christmas event. In Victoria, Butchart Garden's Christmas lights are beautiful, but make sure you give extra to cover the cost of hot chocolate and a treat. Vancouver has the new Christmas Lights, and I believe Grouse Mountain has a Christmas event too now. I am sure in your community there are similar events.
We have a Head Nurse/Worker that arranges the Home care & anything else we need my suggestion would to be call your person/Worker & ask her what is acceptable. I am going to do that myself. We are totally subsidized as my mothers income is low. I do bake so I might make just make cookies. As a 24/7 caregiver it does get tough. I do appreciate whatever help I get with our homecare & right now they don’t do as much as Your mom’s people but in all I still appreciate them very much. I have also noticed some are single mothers.
Hope I was of some help. If you ever need to chat message me please anytime.
Cheers GailMarie