My dad wants to get out of rehab and go home. But he has no home at this point as he can no longer live where he lived before. I tried to explain to him that he had two choices: a hospital rehab where he is able to get physical therapy like where is is now, or if he is done trying to get better he goes to hospice which is just like this but no chance of getting better. He will just lay in bed watching tv and wait to die.
I know that was too harsh but he shut up and stopped yelling at me.
I said that the only way there is a third choice was if he worked hard at rehab and got better then he could go live at a nicer facility. But he can barely eat due to swallowing, can’t get out of bed, can’t go to the toilet or dress himself so it’s all up to him to get better or give up.
Of course this is my fault somehow. Seriously I’m tempted to just give up and send him to a place he can be on hospice.
I'm beginning to think that the hospice choice is more about when YOU as caregiver can’t deal anymore as it is making an informed choice that your LO just is not going to get better.
Anyway. He has dementia but not Alzheimer’s and not always very bad. Do you try to explain or just never tell them?