I take care of my mother/aunt one in home, one not. I love them both dearly, but I'm tired. I feel like I don't have help but I want them to have quality of life also. I am 44.
Quin, you are helping out two elders, that is a lot on your plate. I surely wouldn't feel guilt, more likely angry and frustrated.
Actually you also need a quality of life. For the elder you have at home, does that elder have enough saved to budget for caregivers to come in to help you out?
Good of you to care for your mother and aunt. But please do not feel guilty for being tired. You are only human and the responsibility of caregiving is tiring and overwhelming. I think we all start out with good intentions but as the years get away from us, we can start to feel tired, angry or resentful.
Please know you are not alone. If you can maybe consider getting more help, there are resources in the community and through church. If you feel burned out consider talking to a therapist or joining a support group. Try to find a better balance for yourself.
I have been caring for my parents since I was a teenager and it was around my late 30s that I started to feel tired as well. We all do the best we can so please don't feel guilty for having these feelings.
Actually you also need a quality of life. For the elder you have at home, does that elder have enough saved to budget for caregivers to come in to help you out?
Good of you to care for your mother and aunt. But please do not feel guilty for being tired. You are only human and the responsibility of caregiving is tiring and overwhelming. I think we all start out with good intentions but as the years get away from us, we can start to feel tired, angry or resentful.
Please know you are not alone. If you can maybe consider getting more help, there are resources in the community and through church. If you feel burned out consider talking to a therapist or joining a support group. Try to find a better balance for yourself.
I have been caring for my parents since I was a teenager and it was around my late 30s that I started to feel tired as well. We all do the best we can so please don't feel guilty for having these feelings.
Thinking of you.