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I cannot stop wondering if my mom is in there screaming to be let out. My biggest fear for her.

I do believe that many folks when they first start showing symptoms of dementia are very aware that something is very wrong, and that's why you will often see outbursts of anger and why depression is so common in those folks.
However once they get deeper into the disease, they tend to live in their own little world and often appear to be quite content living there.
Your mom is still in there somewhere and when you least expect it she'll let you know just that.
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I’d guess there are variances in this. My aunt while dealing with Alzheimer’s was her most happy and content. I often thought if she could see herself she’d be embarrassed by her behavior, but she was consistently content. When she knew no one and seemed to remember nothing said to her, she’d sing out hymns and songs from the past with a big smile and pure bliss. She worried no more, she had no problems on her mind, nothing concerned her in politics, relationships, or anything. I’m just saying, it’s obviously a nightmare to watch, but perhaps sometimes it’s not a nightmare to experience
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lealonnie1 May 23, 2026
What a lovely situation for your aunt!
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I agree they make have glimpses, but from what I have seen they are slowly fading and not focusing on their surroundings the closer they get to death.
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I strongly doubt it. If that were the case, she'd be screaming in real life and she'd need to be medicated. I believe those suffering with dementia get small glimpses into what's going on regarding their memory loss, and that's it. My mother would occasionally say, "I think I'm going nuts" but then she'd move on and forget about it. She had vascular dementia for 6 years.

Living in the Labyrinth by Diana Friel-McGowin is an autobiography by a woman with Alzheimer's disease. It's available on Amazon and it's a very good read in case you're interested.
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