I cannot emotionally, physically or financially deal with it. But the guilt is overwhelming. She is 89, lives alone in a 3 bedroom home( in a very unsafe neighborhood). I work full time 95 miles from home and have no backup savings. My life is a mess and I cannot focus on hers. She doesn't want outside help. She is trying to schedule a dental procedure where they will be removing 12 to 14 teeth. I have advised against it because of her age and frail condition but she and her dentist insist she will only need someone with her for 3 days. I just don't see that happening. I can barely make it 2 hours with her or at her house without a panic attack. How could I ever make it 3 days. And it won't end after that. I don't care what the doctor says, anytime you put a nearly 90 year old under sedation, they are not going to be the same afterwards. Does anyone know if she could be admitted to a hospital for this since she is so insistent that she needs this done.