In 2012, when my grandma passed away, my mom moved in with my husband and I. Prior to my grandma's passing, my mom was my grandma's full time caretaker. After my grandma passed, my mom did not have the financial ability to live on her own so she moved in with me and my husband. Fast forward to 2017, she is still living with us and it is driving me crazy. We fight consistently and we both have said some very nasty things to each other. She has these unsaid expectations that she expects me to know.
She is 62 and I am 31. I don't know how many more years I can have her live in our home before I go crazy. Since I turned 18 and went to college, I have never lived with her. I love my mom but I feel that my love for her has turned to resentment. I can move her into a retirement home/assisted living but I don't know if that is the "filial" or "right" thing to do. She wants me to do all the work to find her the new place if it does go forward. I have a stressful full time job that requires me to sometimes work when I'm home. I feel like I have an adult child and as bad as it sounds, I sometimes wish she would just go away or maybe I can just pack up and walk away. Had I known I would have to take care of her to this extent, I wish she would have never given birth to me.