My elderly mother with Copd is currently living independently in her own home. My sister and I help her when we can with shopping and housekeeping. She will eventually need more help as time goes on. She is financially stable, but has done nothing to get outside help to come in. She is totally complacent and assumes when the time comes, she will automatically move in with me leaving my husband and I the responsibility of selling her home, packing, moving and so forth. I don't want her moving in with me nor the responsibilities of moving her. In the meantime she refuses to move closer and assumes her daughters will take her to where she needs to go. She is not a bad person, but we are so different and I want to keep my freedom as I enter my senior years. I am so apprehensive about what the future may be. I try to talk to her about assisted lving, but she is too concerned about the costs and what it will do to the inheritence she wants to leave. All this codependency issues are a constant source of worry for me. To add to it this, she has told me she needs a bathroom with a window added to her living space in my home, due to selective claustrophobia. It is all about the I want I need of her life. I just want to runaway and hide from this potential nightmare. I have so many plans and goals for my retirement, but it will all be gone if I have to take over responsibility for her. Sometimes I feel life would not be worth living. How to I get out of this mess dealing with a sweet but inconsiderate mother without added guilt?