I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I am 21 and he is 25. His parents are in their late 60s. They have both had multiple strokes, both have diabetes, his mother had cancer, and his father has had both legs amputated. They both also have very limited memory. His mother has significant trouble getting around the house. My boyfriend originally lived in Chicago, but moved home to help them out considering they also have three elderly dogs that have trouble controlling their bladders. His dad recently had an infection and is the "sicker" of the two. He usually has to go to the ER once every few months. My boyfriend and I recently went on a vacation with his family and they were very adamant on inhome care. This is something I have brought up multiple times to him with limited success. Sometimes he is 100% against it. Other times, he says he will go find more information. I know he feels an obligation to them but it is not giving up to go seek some help. The problem is that his parents do not think they need help. They almost lost their properties due to forgetting to pay their taxes. They forget to pay bills. They forget...a lot of financial things. My boyfriend said they are very far into debt. He tells me that even with their disability and Medicare, that they still wouldn't be able to pay for the care they need. We are both so young and I want to be able to start a life with him and he tells me the same. But, we can't like this. I just want to be able to refer him to somewhere affordable or even covered. But, I don't know where to begin. I also wish there was a professional evaluator who could come in and assess and tell them if they actually need help or not.