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My brother committed a crime, pleaded guilty and will be sent to prison this coming week. We told my mom that he had done this when it happened 8 months ago. She occasionally mentioned it, but hasn't for the last two or three months. Her memory is very bad and I know she won't remember more than a day or two if that long. He has cut off communication with her now. He doesn't/ won't talk about why. Do I tell her the truth, or just continue to say he's fishing/golfing/or whatever? To keep telling her will upset her over and over and she'll ask the same questions. I hate to not tell her the truth, but is telling her the right thing to do?

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Can you say, "I am not sure, we should call him up in a few days".
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Thank you for the advise. I'll definitely let the staff know so they can be prepared.
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If she's in a facility, the staff may be able to help. Sometimes those conversations can manifest into behaviors after you're gone. When Dad asks about my siblings & why they don't visit, I tell him that I guess everyone's busy & that I don't really hear from them. Then we just move on to other topics.
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If she asks, tell her, but only the one time. After that tell a little white lie. Each Dementia patient is different in their reactions. She may just say "all right".
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