I know my Mom would absolutely consume me if I did this and jeopardized my own hard earned stability for my "retirement" years. She won't move here and to make matters worse I have custody of 2 grandchildren who have lived with me for 9 yrs. I don't have room for her in my home either but I have offered to find her good living conditions within minutes of my home. In fact I could have bought the place next door a couple of years ago at a really good price and she would have been just steps away. There is no "solution' that fits her selfish refusal to move closer to me. Do I sound bitter? Yes I am because I also feel guilty as hell. I rarely have more than 1 day off in a row and when I do I go to her place to take care of the few things I can. I am in contact with her drs. and the people that give what little help I have talked her into getting with her
housework and errands. She can't drive anymore, is on oxegen 24/7 and has mobility issues. She has no one to take her to drs. appts. since my brother was killed 6 months ago and she refuses to use the local transport to get to appts. All I hear is "if you moved up here" blah blah blah blah. There is my problem...I am still just under 4 yrs for retirement eligibility and had planned every thing out so that my house would be paid for by the time I retire. So the quandrey is..my heart tells me one thing and my head tells me something else. I have no husband and am still raising 2 teens. How do I choose? All thoughts on this are certainly welcomed.