Hi, my dad is an 81 year old clever man with PTSD and dementia. He has been in the memory care facility now for two weeks. This week is #3. My parents moved with me 3 years ago to Phoenix. I care for them both with my husband. I also have a 15yo daughter. Dad started to get aggressive with my mom and would often wander away from the home and get lost. This is why I had to place him somewhere. He is also a disabled vet 💯 %P&T. I’m self pay for this beautiful facility because I didn’t want him to go to the places here that I felt weren’t up to my standards. The community sits off by itself separated by an open field. It’s beautiful one story ranch homes separated by severity of diagnosis. Dad is in a locked home that has codes in the doors to get in and out. The windows are big and have a screen that pulls back. Last week dad got out, pulled the window off track and pushed the screen out and fell. They took him to the hospital, he was examined, and released back to the home. The maintenance fixed the window so it can’t open. Last night he did it again. He went into the activity room, pull the window open and left! He had a pillow case with clothes, 3 depends in there socks, everything he needed to survival, except food. It was rolled military style. They came looking for him and noticed he was gone. They immediately started looking for him and saw him walking across the field. They caught him and cohersed him to get in the car and brought him back. I went there, spoke to him. He says he wants to leave and come home. I told him he has to get better but he doesn’t understand. Tomorrow Monday, I’m going to speak with administration and possibly look for a more secure facility. I’m paying almost 5k a month for this lavish place, but this shouldn’t be happening. I have a sister who is overseas who tries to help and two disconnected brothers who don’t do anything. It’s a lot to deal with. Open for any suggestions you may have. Also I work full time as well as my husband. He is helpful also, but I’m emotionally run down.