My parents live alone in their large home an hour and a half away from me. My dad has been struggling with Multiple Sclerosis for 10 years, and my mom quit work to stay home to take care of him. 2 yrs ago, while waiting for an MRI to see why she was having trouble walking, she had a traumatic fall, broke neck and back and other injuries. She miraculously recovered enough to return home. She was diagnosed with a movement disorder which is stealing her life moment by moment.
I have been trying for years, even before their decline, to get them to move closer to us. They chose to live in a little town which is almost 2 hrs away from me because they liked the house.
I go to help at least one day every weekend- we shop for them, do things to help around the house, get prescriptions, etc. anything they need.I work and I am raising my son. Finances are very tight.
I want to do all I can to bless them- but I feel like they are so stubborn, and wanting their own way. They have a few neighbors to count on for small things- and they are God sends. But... Still, even though I have brought up small apartments closed to me, assisted living, etc, it is met with
Defensive comments, and it ends with arguing. I know they are adults- but I am frightened for them.
When do you decide, as a child, to let them do it in their own time- even if that means it will prob take a big event to change their minds- or keep trying to gently away them to safer situations?