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Most certainly you should have the POA if you are living with your father and taking care of him.
You should also be the executor of his will too. Does he have a will? Take him to the same lawyer he went to when he made the POA naming your sister. Change the POA and have him change the will if you will be the one caregiving for him.
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The one with the POA is the one who makes all the decisions when he’s no longer competent.

Please don’t make the same mistake I did. I was doing all the caring for my mom & sibling had POA. I had an argument with him & the next thing I knew he had taken my mom who had dementia to a lawyer & had her trust amended to benefit himself 100%.

Don’t wait to do this….best of luck to you
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If your dad is oriented have a talk with him about your concerns & sister's lack of concern & what she wants done. If he then agrees, take him to the same lawyer to have you named as POA, MPOA, & executer of estate. Do ASAP.
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My sister who had POA, lived in another state, but I as well… she never came to visit. My aunt brought it up that my sister would probably not be able to do what was needed. We did have the POA changed. I hoped my parents would tell her. They did not.. my sister got over “ loosing her birth right” and admitted she wouldn’t have been a good candidate. I often wished it be her job.

sounds like your sister s ego is in play here. What does dad want ? Not what do you want, or sister want…. What’s the logical , if it were a business choice? Because let’s face it.. facts and circumstances need to be looked at without involving feelings. Needs assessment to needs.
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I’m sorry, but you are really wanting to wrest poa plus have dad change his will so you can get a “new job” caring for him all the time? 168 hours a week? No one person can do 168 hours.
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