Hello all. My mom is 84 and has early stage Alzheimers. She still lives alone in the same gated community as myself. She bathes, dresses, puts on makeup, cooks a little. However, her short term memory is definitely getting worse and I feel like the next “drop” in memory is coming. She’s not in need of caregiving at this point but companionship. However the shift in lack of short term memory and forgetfulness of bigger experiences from a few years ago is startling to me-it’s hard to accept I suppose.
My mom goes into robotic calling due to sundowning and just wants company, yet only my company. Even after spending time at my home or at dinner she calls as soon as she is in her house for me to come over and “be together”. She also forgets that she was even with me before that, just minutes later. Sad. She cannot live with me. I also am a single mom with an active, studious teenager and I can’t be her only social connection. She wants to sit and watch shows every night. She can also be very negative which makes things more difficult.
I’m reaching out to find out my next steps as I’m very new to this. Do I hire companion care from 4-8 to alleviate sundowning and provide company to watch her shows? Although she then says she is fine and does not want that. Someone mentioned speaking to a caregiver consultant?
I’m overwhelmed, heartbroken and it’s taking a toll on me physically and mentally as I handle all of my moms affairs all across the board.
Looking for guidance. Thank you.