Dad passed a little over a year ago. My siblings descended. One helped a little bit. the other 3 not at all. The ones who stayed her and in a hotel near here went to dinner every night all together. never invited me or any of my family. of course noone invited my mom which she could not have gone anyway as she got diarrhea the night he passed and it lasted a week! she was SO sick!
so - i have less than no interest in repeating that scenario when mom passes. i want to have a service with my kids when I am ready. (we cremate so time is not an issue) that may be awhile before i am ready to say goodbye.
i have no interest in doing a service "because i should" and even less incentive to do it for my terrible brothers and sisters!
am i off the ranch here?