My mother lived with me for 17 years. She is 95 and in the last year her memory and cognitive skills has failed rapidly. She needs help with most everything. She is not incontinent, however. I am her only child and made the decision to move her to assisted living near me. I am 71 and her care was draining me physically and emotionally. She is miserable and begs to come home. The guilt of this move is killing me.