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My husband and I are going through a very hard time right now and I see no way out. But divorce. Thank you

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I'm sorry, but you made me laugh so hard !!! Three females...I love it. My husband will know if I hide the only gun he wanted left out. Can someone tell me if I can get someone to take the firing pin out will he know what happened ?
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Speaking of guns, my husband was looking for his rifle and of course, I had removed it. He did get angry. Told me he needed it to protect us. That is a sign of a future problem. But he has forgotten all about it. At the time, though, I told him that if he shot anyone he would be in trouble and might have to go to jail. In order to diminish his anger, I did say that he would get three free meals a day. He thought I said three females a day, and brightened up. Dementia really messes up the hearing, for even with hearing aids the comprehension is really serious. He says what? every time I say something, and he says what? to anyone else. Since I am in the house with him every day I feel like screaming at times. marymember
P.S. WHAT'S the answer?
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Sorry for the misplaced post. I'm just getting the hang of this.
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Is an MRI an accurate 'measurement" of whether or not a person has dementia or Alzeimers, etc?
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Tarajane, you are exactly right -- you are in a state of mourning. You are suffering a huge ongoing loss. And it is ambiguous. You are still married, but your role is becoming more parental and less spousal.

Hugs to you as you learn to cope with this.
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Tara, I'm glad he's stopped talking about divorce. The thing to remember is that HE would have to do the leg work.
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We had a fantastic 48 years, traveling, camping, going to concerts, etc. Now I have lost that man and I am in mourning. The only reason I was asking about divorce was when I took his guns away and he mentioned it. No more talk of it now. Thanks
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I haven't seen statistics on that. Since dementia usually occurs in older persons, it may be more common for the person with dementia to go to a care center, and the couple is "separated" that way.

In cases of early onset dementia, where the married couple is younger there may be more compelling reasons for a legal divorce.

For you, tarajane, I hope that your situation will improve as a treatment plan is in place for your husband.

Before the dementia, did you have a satisfying relationship?

This is very sad to think about, but I suggest you visit a family law attorney alone, and discover what all the options are. How would a divorce impact your finances? Would it improve or impair your husband's opportunities for long-term treatment? Are there other legal steps open to you?

Finding out about these things does NOT obligate you to take any particular steps, but it might help you think clearly about your future.

Hugs to you!
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