I am the sole caregiver for my grandparents who are in their mid 80s. Without going into details about how I know my grandparents are very sexually active. However at my grannys last doctors appointment she was told by the doctor that she is not healthy enough to have sex...she has numerous health problems and we can see that it is taking a toll on her. Sex is all they have left to do...its the one thing they can still give eachother so the emotional damage of not having sex would be great...but its killing her. Sometimes I think its just the wifely due and my papa being from the 30s demands it but then sometimes I think she is willing and if she is there is nothing I can do. Right?