After mom died and dad had to move out of his place due to no money and falling and being lonely, well I stepped in. My one sibling lived close by and worked with dad and was single and had a house, but no offer to help. The other sibling lived 5 hours away and made a paper-thin offer to take dad but dad called me and asked me to help (I am 7 hours away). Me having one child still home I made the best of it. Sibling #2 said "you take dad 6 months and I'll take dad 6 months. After the cleanout and move nothing. A few trips to #2s house once a year for a week or 2 for a few years but that was it. Now 8 years in and covid and I am stuck. #2 retires soon but has a grandchild on the way. So I ask for #2 to take dad for a month so my wife and I can go on vacation. Nope, "Covid" Dad gets his shots soon, She is retired and the baby is not due till summer. Nothing, "nope there is Covid here". But number #2 can drive 5 hours to get a haircut in another state because the state they are in does not allow the same way due to covid. Then another trip to the same town 5 hours away and will be painting a grandchild's room in their child's house (grandchild wants her grandmother to do it) in another state but that is OK, I guess no covid in that state? Did I mention #2 is a nurse? So it's OK for #2 to travel and go to all these places but not for our father to spend time and see his great-grandchildren some he has never seen.
I'm just tired, our marriage is suffering, not bad but we are stressed and I am asking for help from my sibling. #1 is a write-off so we don't talk. #2 said will still work a couple of days a week after retirement so to have travel money. Funny, I can't travel because our father is a fall risk and can't be left alone for a weekend. #2 calls dad every other day and plays doting child all the while I have to deal with meds, dr appointments, dehydration, altered mental status when a UTI appeared, falls, 3 surgeries, rehab daily visits after surgeries, cooking and shopping, technology support paying for the roof overhead and no financial assistance at all. Anytime there is a funeral I have to drive him many hours to it or in one case flew across the country with him and a wheelchair through airports. At the airport #2 went and got a wheelchair so he didn't have to walk back to the car from our gate after our flight got canceled and #2 ran back to her gate to fly to vegas and left me there having another night in a hotel and meals to get a flight back the next day.
Didn't think this one through when I stepped up to the plate.
Just burned out that siblings do not care one bit to help.
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