Sometimes I don't say anything. I let my mom's false memory slide because I figure "why correct it, it's what she thinks happened and it's not like she's going to remember my correcting her and never repeat the false statement". But sometimes, I just can't seem to let it go by. Because it's so hurtful. Recently, Christmas Day to be exact, my youngest brother came by and brought my mom a couple scratch off lottery tickets (her favorite pastime). She actually got tickets from several of us. Well, so happen my brother had two tickets in her gift bag he already had scratched. One had a winning of $8.00 and the other was not a winning ticket. She immediately latched onto the fact that he gave her used tickets. See what I think happened is that he bought her five $1.00 tickets as her gift and he bought himself two $5.00. He scratched his and gave her his winning ticket just as an extra gift. He left both his tickets in her bag. She has been going on since December 25th about him giving her used tickets. Well today the memory shifted. See when she scratched off her own tickets she had a lot of losing tickets (naturally) and a few winning tickets. Instead of throwing away the losing tickets, she kept them in her ticket pile for some reason. Well today, she goes to finish scratching off her tickets (cleaning them up so she can turn them in) and noticed a ton of losing tickets. She has said several times today how horrible it was my brother gave her all the used losing tickets. At first, I thought it was kind of funny. But, the more she says it, the angrier she gets and I tried to tell her that isn't what happened. Which only made her more angry it seemed. I know it would hurt my brother's feelings horribly to know she is making such a claim. This shouldn't seem like such a big deal. But, I know she's made false claims about her caretaker (said she put something in her water that made it stink). I know this is false because the sitter is a family friend that is absolutely crazy about her. And I know my mom's senses are "off" which likely resulted in her thinking she smelled something in the water. Sort of how she thinks Kleenex stinks. Or she thinks it's hot when we go outside and it's 40 degrees. False claims seems to be something that happens with dementia patients because I have a friend whose mother also has dementia and she almost tore their family apart with a false claim of infidelity between one of her nieces and son-in-laws. Makes me wonder what my mom tells people about me. Makes me scared to be honest because a false claim could result in a major investigation if said to the wrong person. So, do any of you waste energy trying to help your loved one "fix" a memory??