I'm asking this on behalf of my mother who is married to my stepfather, he had 2 massive strokes 8 years ago and was paralyzed on his left side speech impaired, etc. She has been his sole caregiver 24/7 since then and within the last 6 months he has made up his mind that he no longer wants to live and in-turn has turned into a monster (extremely verbally abusive), taking every bit of his anger out on my mom. She has reached her breaking point on multiple occasions and is now seriously considering divorcing him and putting him in a home. He is in his mid 60's with no able-bodied siblings to take him in (2 sisters in their 70's). Does anyone have advice on steps to take with turning him over to the state? Is she required to divorce him prior to doing so? She is almost unable to lift him due to muscle loss for refusing to do physical therapy. He used to be able to help you a bit to transfer him from place to place but now it is like dead weight and she's doing it day in and day out. Any advice is appreciated more than you know.