Coming home from my mom's. And seeing spouse with (single) neighbor. It flashed before me that I have been absent for too long. Running back and forth constantly for about two years now making sure my aging dementia parents were okay with 24/7 care but leaving free time for my spouse. How do you choose? Parents can live another 10 years. What is reasonable visiting time with parents? After all they are your mom and dad. I drive 45 min one way 3 days a week to make sure they get out and everything is okay. I'm getting tired also.