My husband and I began caregiving for my mother-in-law 6 years ago after my father-in-law passed away. She has numerous health problems, can't drive, can't write a check or pay bills or take care of her house. My husband has Financial POA and I have Medical POA. I have accompanied her to all of her doctor visits and hospital visits. Any time she was sick, I would text her two sons and grandchildren what was going on trying to keep them apprised of their mother's situation. One son lives out of state, but another son lives local and has never offered to help her or us with anything - which I've accepted because my mother-in-law doesn't trust him nor his wife because of things that have happened in the past. I believe he thinks we are spending "his inheritence" or being too extravagant which is not true. Which he also doesn't understand, the only reason he is even in her will was with my encouragement. My mother-in-law was not going to leave him anything - but I encouraged her to do so. Any money spent was on her for her care - and it's what should happen with her money. It started out her living in her residence with a grandson (my nephew) also living with her but he barely helped her with anything. Then we moved her into our home when she required a little more care. She eventually progressed to needing more care, so we moved her into an excellent Assisted Living facility trying to keep her out of a nursing home. He never came to visit her in the Assisted Living facility - so he hasn't seen his mother in 2 years but I was still keeping him updated. He started not acknowledging my updates after she went into the AL. Now she is on hospice, and my brother-in-law is still not talking to us, but going through this grandson/nephew. This grandson/nephew has lied before and caused strife in the past, so there's no telling what he is saying. What I can't understand is how this son can treat us so badly after caring for his mother for so long, especially when he didn't want to be bothered by it. I have always tried to have a decent relationship with him but had been warned by my husband to not bother. Now I wish I would have listened. After this is all over, I seriously plan on never talking to this person again. Am I taking this too personal? Any thoughts?