I am the youngest child of a 95-year-old mother. I live 65 miles away and have a brother who is closest to her and visits her everyday. I try to make it once a week to see my mother. Sometimes I can't due to illness. The other day I tried to discuss possibly relocating to senior care apartments due to my concern for her safety and well being. I tried discussing this with her and she became angry and very abusive to me. I was accused of trying to put her in a nursing home, which was furthest from the truth. I even tried to discuss this with my older brother and he even agreed with me. The next day I felt compelled to go visit and straighten this issue out. Well my brother was there and I was kinda ambused by the both of them. My brother accused me of trying to get her money and she is listening to him and agreeing. I tries to discuss this issue reasonably but my brother became abusive and aggressive towards me. I immediately left and am trying to understand what just happened there. I called my mother again the next day on the phone and she accused me of trying to steal here house away from her and put her is a nursing home. I have never heard such hurtful things come out of my mothers mouth. I am hurt and disgusted. I dont know what to do. I am extremely stressed over this, my blood pressure is high, i cannot sleep, i feel like im in a tunnel. Im trying to understand but cant.