My Mom just entered assisted living with a diagnosis of 3rd stage Lewy Body Disease. She doesn't know her diagnosis as the neuro-psychiatrist said it would be better not to tell her as she can't fix it and he said to never take away hope.
It is really stressful to me right now to "lie" to her when she asks when she's going to come home, to have her talk about driving again and to have her talk about paying her bills when I know her income will go 100% towards Medicaid when its finalized.
Does it get easier? Do I just keep deflecting her and re-directing her? It drives my crazy to have her at the house when I bring her to visit for the day, but when I take her back to the assisted living I feel horribly guilty as I drive away.
I feel like I'm darned if I do and darned if I don't emotionally at the moment. Some days I think it would be ok to have her back at home and as soon as I spend some time with her I realize how bad she can be sometimes. Plus if I bring her home, I lose her spot in the assisted living and there are very, very few opportunities in this area for AL's that take Medicaid........not to mention she would lose the social interaction and health monitoring as I work all day and she would be alone.......
I'm so stressed at the moment!