My devout Catholic MIL's husband died five years ago. Since then, she's moved 30 miles away to live with us so that we can care for her. Our local parish's bulletin lists a memorial mass for a man named the same as her deceased husband. She's fixated on going because she believes it will be a memorial for her husband, even though she is in a different parish now and some years have gone by. I can't stop her from going, even though I explained that I don't think this mass will be for her dear, missed husband. My MIL still drives. I'm just thinking that -- since my MIL is dead-set on going -- my husband should go with her, to help her deal with any feelings that might come up. He thinks that he should not go, so that she can be confronted plainly by her misunderstanding. Thoughts?