I had a huge disagreement with my elderly Mom over the importance of getting cataracts surgery. She was informed several years ago (pre-Covid) during an eye exam that she really needed the surgery and the longer she waits the worse it will get. They prescribed eyeglasses but was reluctant because the physician felt it was useless and continued to express the importance of this surgery. I have also brought it up over the years since the appointment more than I can remember. Fast forward to April 2023, the primary care physician informed her that she needed to get this surgery ASAP. To make a long story short, when I followed up and started asking questions about contacting the doctor's office about the procedure, she became hostile towards me and informed me not to worry myself and if she becomes blind, then it's on her. It was at this point that I ended the argument because I did not have the energy to go back and forth. I understand being afraid of the surgery, but losing my sight would be more frightening than the actual procedure. I even offered to pay any expense that the insurance did not cover but this still was not enough. It was at this point that I realized why should I get my blood pressure up worrying about this or any situation when the individual's response is "why you worrying", I'm not? The problem is, her eyesight is getting worse. She won't wear eyeglasses, when she drives she can't see the lanes, and she can barely see the debit/credit machine at check out and the cashier has to assist her but when I try to help, she yells, "I got it!" I am so done. She will tell family and people outside of the family that I don't check up on her, take time out with her etc. I can not count the many times she has called 3-4 in the morning to say she is calling 911 because she is not feeling well and when I jump in my car and get there, she is sitting in the living room relaxing and tells me she is feeling better and she just needed to open the window or she was feeling dehydrated but drank water and is now okay. I am a single woman, not retired yet and do not like being out that time of morning speeding to her place of residence. She never calls to see if I made it back home safely so I told her that I will no longer be running to her place that time of morning because I have to watch out for my own safety, and she really needs to call 911 and not use that as a way to get me to her place if she feels bad because; 1. They will get there faster and 2. If she has the ability to call me 3 or 4 times until I answer, she has the ability to dial 911 once. I stated in another post that boundaries when addressing issues with a difficult parent are so important for your mental and physical well-being and will continue to stand by my statement. Any similar experiences? If so, how did you address your situation with a parent that seems okay with losing their sight?