My mom would benefit from the smallest dose of otc inflammation reducer/pain medicine and anti anxiety medicine but my dad won't agree to it, for reasons I have no idea why. One of my sisters is in agreement with me and we have tried to have three family meetings with the executive director, nurse director and doctor on staff.
The other sister is in my dad.s side which makes no sense why they wouldn't want to keep my mom comfortable in her final stage of life.
I have met with the executive director which was futile because all she does is avoid the issue and play head games to deflect the real issue. I believe she and the Dr are not pushing for it because my dad is paying the bill and they don't want to cause waves. When I told the exec. Director That it seemed fishy and I would get to the bottom of it, she got very upset and said the conversation was over. I want to call the ombudsmen but I am mentally and emotionally worn out. I have the names of two mediators but every time there was a meeting my dad displayed irrational, nasty, and embarasding behavior because he has an an explosive temper. I visit my mom later in the day when she is showing pain in her hip and shoulder that she broke last July and her back and legs. Her anxiety and agitation is shown in comments like I want to die, I hate it here, I don't want to live.,is that normal behaviour for sundowning? My dad only visits in the morning when she is usually feeling okay and he refuses to go any other time of day. He is a stubborn, mean and nasty man and always has been. And is preventing my mom from being comfortable. What would you do?