My husband has 10 sibling, of those relatives, only is Mentally Ill, schizophrenic and has the IQ of a 10 year old. he is a ward of the state. The parents are both deceased and now siblings take turns looking after him ( visiting, taking him out and trying to spend tim with him) However , I have been married since 1995. the family members would take turns intermittently to bring out the brother , we will call him Samson. So he would come to someone house, spend the night for the entire weekend. But he needed assistance being 6"4 246 pounds, to take showers, going to the bathroom, brushing teeth, putting on shoes with laces and getting dressed. It has gotten to the point where as he is violent with the family, yelling and stating that he will not return to his site, He hears voices in his head and wants to do harm to himself and or people. I have gotten to the point that I dont want to bring him to my house for an entire weekend, let alone a holiday weekend. But the additional 9 family members have either stopped picking him up completely , or they make it 2-3 times a year. My husband has had his brother in 2014 2013, 2012, 2011, and 2010( year of my brain surgery ). ,23 weekends including every holiday. I mean valentines, Mothers day, Good Friday, Easter, Veterans Day , Indenpendence day . I told him ( my husband ) that I am tired and feel neglected. Its costly, time consuming, and Im totally afraid that he could harm my children or me. my husband insist that becuase his family has forgotten about his brother, he will not turn his back on him. So even on Mothers day in 2014, My husband told me , you are not my mother, I am bringing over Samson, he deserves to be out with his family. I am so depressed about this, becuase I feel that my conerns and feelings are being put to the side. I no longer speak to his other siblings , becuase in 2010 of June, I had brain surgery to where my cerebellum ( lower part of my brain was falling into my spine). My surgery was in June. Then In Sept my husband was diagnosed with an brain tumor and needed immediate surgery. He had surgery in November. These Jerks continue to contact my husband after his surgery within weeks. To ask if Samson could come over and stay the holiday weekend for Christmas and New years. My husband said yes no problem. I ended up waiting on him hand and foot. I have since now stated, I will lift no fingr, no cooking of meals, no washing clothes, no driiving in my car to pick him up, nonthing. I am filing for divorce, becuase I should not have to be neglected for an in law who is disabled. He is so violent and mentally Ill, he is a ward of the state. I have tried talking to my spouse, laying out my concerns , and telling him what I wil no longer stand for. That our Marriage , Our children come first. that is it. He even got to the point to tell me , that If his brother could not come with us out on Vacation to Wisconsin Dells or Disney world that the whole trip would be canceled. I stood my ground last year and stated " just like you , I have money saved, good credit and I am going without you . I wil not be dealing with your brother and his outbursts and poor hygiene . His brothers soils himself, doesnt wash his hands, saying violent or disturning comments and stares at you with cold eyes that dont blink. Its frightening. My youngest son hates that he comes over and we actually leave the house becuase its so uncomfortable. I want my husband to stop putting his brother first whom is 49 years old. He needs to take care of his wife who has a Brain Disease that cause many issues. but he too still has a brain tumor that is getting worse. i am so tired of fighting, i think Divorce is the best way to say , " you need a wake up call , if you want to take care of your brother for the rest of your life , do it without me and our children. we are tired, we are done.