He has power of attorney to a mother in the early (not yet documented) stages of dementia. My father intended for all four children to be named as beneficiaries on all bank accounts. He is Mom's little pet and does most of the care. I am his back-up in the same house. The other day, he let on that he put his name as joint holder on Mom's account ($112,00 in it). He claims he has to because he will need the money to pay for her funeral. (A veteran's graveside. Just the cost of the wake is needed.) My mother is close to 90 and I told him there will be less than 20 people at the wake--which should be small and private. I feel that he is being shady. Is this a legit thing to do? How does this come into play if Mom has to go into a nursing home? Isn't that money viewed as a "gift" to him. Doesn't he have to pay tax on that gift? I don't trust him because he took Dad's car as his own when Dad died and has been in three fender benders in two years with it. He goes through cars like water and I'm thinking that he will buy himself another car (with Mom's cash of course because it's REALLY HERS) in a year or two.