At the beginning of the year I found out Gulfshore increased mom's Exelon patch to 9 mg from a Humana statement - n.h. NEVER told me! AS a result, I hired a Nurse Care Manager to advocate for mom. At the introductory care plan meeting I guess the home felt "threatened" becasuse almost the entire staff were there & I was the one threatened!!! Anyway, Director of Nursing, said "she could live another 20 yrs"!!! I heard that & realized I may be doing this for the next 20 yrs - both wonderful news AND not so wonderful - I love mom more than life itself but that would make her about 115 before she passes & I'll be working my butt off for the next 20 yrs. I know some people DO live that long, but I really think he just blurted that out & depending on where I (or anyone) am in the caregiving journey, I could've went home & committed suicide!!! I just think he could've left that out!!! The latest care plan meeting was worse, though. Even my Nurse Manager said "my uncle lived to 120" & ALL I said was I hope John is right about mom living 20 more yrs - next time I'll keep my mouth SHUT - they were all saying my grandmother lived, etc., etc. Thanks for listening.