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I am leaving with my parents in a separate house in the same premises bcoz our house is so small if guest comes very difficult to accommodate. Earlier we cooked together & eating together but my mother has attitude issue. she will complain for the cooking styles and tell others that she is not able to eat properly bcoz of my wife..after listening from others i said my mother better to cook separetly and now we are following..Everybody try to make her understand at this old age you should not create issues just seat and live happily but she has the attitude of telling each and every problem of our house to all the people living in the colony whether the other person is a house mad or neighbors. Sometimes she is getting health issues then also not asking my wife to cook, she will some other relatives or neighbors to cook for her..she always worried for money..Some times i am feeling better to leave my parents to live their own way rather than staying in the same premises .. she is always telling our neighbours and relatives that she wont give any property to my wife and till dates also not given anykind of gift to our kids..Any suggestion on how to make my mother happy..She wants everybody should work under her direction then only someone will be good to her..

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I'm not sure how the cultural aspect of your situation comes into play. I say this because of some of the terminology you used in your question. So, I"m not sure what country you are located. Is it traditional where you live to have senior parents live on on the same premises? Would it be acceptable to have your parents move elsewhere?

Do you know much about your mom's health? How old is she? Sometimes, seniors get to a place where they seem to be unhappy about their life. I'm not sure if it's due to regret, resentment or depression. Depression can cause people to see things in a negative light. Would it be possible for her to see a doctor and be evaluated? Sometimes medication can help.

Also, have you noticed anything else unusual about your mom's behavior. Cognitive decline can also cause a person to become disagreeable, ill tempered and agitated. They seem to refuse to be happy, however, if that is the cause, they can't help it, due to what is going on with their brain. I'd take some notes of what you have observed with your mom and see if she will agree to see a medical doctor, just to make sure she's medically and mentally sound. That could provide you some answers. If she's healthy and just being disagreeable for the sake of being disagreeable, then, you may have to approach the problem directly. You can't make someone else be happy.  That has to come from within.  
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You cannot make your mom happy, only she can. It sounds like she enjoys the drama of complaining and creating trouble. Limit your time with her and protect your wife.
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I'm afraid she has chosen to be miserable and it isn't in your power to make your mother happy. Your mom wants to be the queen bee, instead of welcoming a new daughter (your wife) into the family and her heart she has chosen to compete with her for your attention, belittle her and your efforts and to gossip about your private issues. I'm afraid that no matter how much you do for her it can never be enough and I am happy you have chosen to stand by your wife as a good man should!
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