I need to get facts on where I stand and what I will be available if mom ends up in a nursing home or even assisted living. She has nearly always been emotionally abusive to me all of my life and now to my 7 year old son, so I don't think that part has anything to do with beginnings of dementia. She wants everything to be her way and only her way is right. Since she has been here over 14 months all ready, I don't know if there is a time limit when she might not lose her home and car to a nursing home and what about her bills and credit cards? Any good websites or how to choose a good elder lawyer? Any good websites for family caregiver laws in IL? Thanks for all of the support and letting me bounce off of all of you.