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As my mother slides from mere cognitive decline (coupled with a personality disorder) to early dementia, I find I must change how I speak to her. My whole life I have had to walk on eggs, practice deception and out right lie to keep my mother calm. Now I find that the less I say the better. I don't know how long this will work, but now I just say, "you're ok. Everything is fine. We took care of that." Has anyone else experienced this? What's next?

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Ditto Rosyday
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JoAnn. You have that right...home or money...I don't go there. One thing I find odd is my mother now refers to her old home by its address, never as home. It's like she's avoiding it too. I get the anxious question, " how are my finances? How much money,do i have." At first she wanted to see everything. Now I just say, you have plenty.
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I never asked Mom how her day was because I was afraid she'd tell me. She really didn't like Daycare. But it was "my" time when she was there. Never mention home or money. Not even when its aimed at someone else. These r two of the things they seem to fixate on.
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