When my uncle died, my cousins approached me about taking care of their mother. They said she was very forgetful and were concerned for her safety and felt she needed someone to live with her. I suffer from fibromyalgia and am unable to work full time. Initially, the deal sounded great, but as plans progressed, I became more and more wary of the idea.
While my cousins claimed I wouldn't have many duties, "just be there and check to make sure he remembered to eat her dinner", I was discovering I would likely need to do most of the grocery shopping, light cleaning, take her to doctor appointments. She cannot remember how to use the microwave, stove, or dishwasher. She can't remember where the silverware is, etc. then, lio and behold, my aunt Became belligerent about having someone in her home. While I was originally to have the upstairs to myself, my cousins suddenly sprang on me that I'd get one little bedroom.
The clincher then was they only wanted to pay me $300/month....
When I approached them about the arrangements being changed and I was not happy with the low compensation, my cousin, who is doing very well financially, got angry and said she wouldn't pay a cent more and that I should be glad they were getting a place to live rent free, (implying I'm ungrateful, greedy, and selfish).
Needless to say, now we are not even speaking. I trusted they were going to be honest and fair, and I started my plans to move ahead of time (yea, dumb me!). Fortunately, I wound up moving in with my elderly parents and I'm helping them instead.
I'm sad the relationship with my one cousin is basically destroyed, but I believe they were trying to exploit me and I escaped a bad situation. (They are also furious that they have had to move her in with one of the cousins and have to pay other caregivers.) What do you think?