After my Dad passed away, Mom pretty much gave up. She won't help me with anything even though I've asked her to. She also doesn't help financialy other than maybe chip in when we eat out. I get very frustrated with her when it's time to go somewhere because she doesn't remember to or doesn't want to get ready to go. I can tell her 3 times to get ready and she still sits there. We've been late to appts. for this reason. I feel like I'm yelling at her all the time to do things but she won't listen. I need help dealing with her. I feel like she does things to antagonize me, but I'm sure it's just her diabetes and dimentia. Suggestions? She also doesn't want to take showers. She will do sponge baths but not showers. I feel like we argue all the time.