My MIL entered ASL after an at-fault car accident. At the hospital she was diagnosed with moderately severe vascular dementia. We moved here 10 years ago and she has been spiteful to me ever since. She's hateful & narcissistic. At rehab they could not coach her to understand how to take her meds or test her sugar-too much confusion. The family decided that ASL was needed and she agreed, reluctantly. She has long term care insurance thanks to my deceased FIL's foresight (a wonderful man she never stopped criticizing).
She eats only carbs at ASL and substitutes ice cream for her veggies. Her leg wound has worsened. Today we got a call from the nurse saying that MIL keeps sticking her finger in the wound every time the dressing is changed 2x's a day. So off we go to spend the afternoon at Medstat. Doctor tells us it is her out of control sugar. MIL brings out the same song and dance about how the facility, nurses, dietician and her doctor know nothing about controlling her diabetes and all she has to eat is carbs. These are blatant lies. I told her in front of Dr. and the favorite son who was visiting that there were substitutions and she was choosing poorly and that ice cream was not helping. Told her that she could lose her leg. Dr. agreed. I requested and got a script for her to get nutritional counseling. This is bogus. For decades she lived at home and co not roles her diabetes well. A nurse friend of mine, who knows the whole story of my MIL's antics says that my MIL is eating poorly to exercise control.
My SIL who is a wonderful person suggested that we purchase here some better food to keep in her room. My MIL has lots more money than we do but is a miser. Plus there are good choices available,
I am so tired of this woman eating like a two year old and blaming everyone for her problem. BTW she worked in food service as a kitchen worker - no degree in nutrition, so you can't tell her anything-she knows it all. The staff nutritionist is incompetent, the nurses are incompetent etc. I feel like nailing her to the wall verbally. I am 99% sure that the dementia isn't affecting the food choices. Also, she doesn't know that the facility keeps the sheets she uses to make her selections at every meal. Yes, she can select her food at every meal.
I feel like tell the her, "The next time you have to go to the Madstat or ER due to your poor choices the ambulance will take you and you can wait by yourself.
It has been one unending power play since we moved here and I am so sick of it.
She is in a great facility known for it's great food. She has a corner room apartment with loads of light. We live across the street and see her 2 - 3 times a week. I treated her like gold during the move
I saw the wound again today and she has a second wound opening about 2 inches from the first.
She has always hated being told what to do, but who would endanger their health just for a power play? I really hate the lying most of all. She lies mostly by innuendo and has been doing it ever since we got here. It makes me want to scream to hear her twisting the truth and vindictively maligning people. I know she does it to me because people have told me about it.