My grandfather has had diabetes most of his life, and was a master plumber for 40 years. About 2 years ago he moved in with my family because he could no longer care for himself. As time went on he would do less and less for himself, and is now at the point where he lies in bed all day. He's fully capable of getting up on his own, getting food, going to the bathroom, etc. A good example would be him not wanting to get up to get some ice, but taking his walker all the way to Foodmaxx to buy licorice, chips and other junk food. There are even times where he won't get up to use the bathroom, and instead go in his bed, he also fights us on showers. It seems like he is behavioral and only acts helpless when people are around. I'm at a loss on how to help, because every time I try to help he says "I know all about that" and ignores me after. It's almost like he doesn't want help, and just wants to wallow away. All I want is for him to be healthy again, and to be able to do things on his own. He's reached a point where he almost looks skeletal from lying in bed, and every time I offer to go on a walk with him, he never wants to. It's draining, and sometimes the smell is unbearable. I've since moved out, but it's still wearing down my mother and brother. We're thinking about putting him in a home but we don't know what to do. I also believe he's depressed, as his ex wife died in 2016, and we had to get rid of his dogs because they were ruining our carpet, and would also refuse to go potty outside. Sorry if this seems all over the place, it's barely scratching the surface. I'll clarify any questions, I just need advice.