Has anyone struggled with where a loved one should be placed...and if you've made the wrong decision about placement? My mother was in a memory care facility for 5.5 months, then had an emergency that took her to the hospital where she almost "met her Maker." While she was in the hospital, the docs reduced one of her meds and took her off the other one altogether -- they thought she was over medicated. It was decided that she should probably go to a long term nursing facility and she should be under hospice care. This is what happened.
Now, two months later, she is doing so well hospice didn't admit her to their care. She walks with her walker, and by herself in her room; she is no longer incontinent and she can (mostly) go to the bathroom by herself. Without the drugs, she's back to who she was 2 years ago, physically; however, she still has dementia and her paranoia and nastiness is creeping back in. Last week I was amazed at how well she was doing. While at any time, anything can happen to her health-wise, I feel like I may have made the wrong decision about placing her in this long term care facility.
Does anyone have any suggestions? Placing her in both facilities has been emotionally exhausting -- the thought of doing it again -- wow!