Hello, I would be very grateful for any thoughtful suggestions people would have about my situation, let me try to summarize it briefly: I am a man in his 50s who lives in Europe, and my elderly mother (she is 87) is in the US. She has been in the hospital and is now at the point where she will have to go into a nursing home or assisted living situation. She has run out of money and assets, and I am funding her while trying to get her into Medicaid. I have to go app every 3 months to the US to try to deal with my mother's situation. I am a successful professional and have a demanding job. I have been married for 25 years, and my marriage is not in the best shape. My wife resents the attention and time I spend on trying to sort out my mother's situation, and we frequently argue about it. We have tried marriage counseling, but it didn't really help. I am sure I have not been a very good husband the last few years, but I simply can't ignore my mother's situation, I feel guilty about being so far away from her, and feel responsibility since I am the only one in the family who can help her financially. The stress of flying thousands of miles to the US every few months, keeping up my professional committments, funding my mother and dealing with the logistics of her situation (paying bills etc), and then arguing about the situation with my wife often make me feel exhausted and depressed. I don't want to feel sorry for myself, but wish I had someone who could give me some moral support in this situation. I have considered leaving my wife, but am not sure I could take the added strain of a divorce in addition to everything else. Anyway, I am sure there are many people in much more difficult situations than mine, but any thoughts or suggestions people have would be appreciated. Thanks to all of you!