My mom uses Depends all day and eve. During the day she needs it for occasional accidents, but generally she uses the toilet. At night she always wets the Depends while sleeping and needs to be changed with the aide's assistance.
Her regular aide is on vacation and we have a lovely lady filling in. She tells my mom (81) to feel comfortable wetting the Depends if they are out and she has to go and a bathroom is not near (makes sense to me) or when she is home and needs help getting to the bathroom (for falling concerns) but the aide is eating her lunch or very busy at the moment. The aide is very clean in general. I trust that she would help mom change the Depends as soon as she could after these given situations but I am just wondering if this is okay to do often, etc. Mom says, "She tells me a lot to just go urinate in the Depends." We spoke about it briefly tonight and the aide explained that she was not feeling well herself (which mom expressed concern over) and was trying to eat dinner when the situation came up and she told mom to just use the Depends. (She had assisted mom to the bathroom prior but mom sometimes has false alarms and didnt really need to go then.) Just wondering if there is a rule of thumb with this matter of Depends useage? Up till now I have thought of it for accidents only. Any thoughts about it?